Seriously, I don’t think it gets said enough in this fandom, but Harry is really such a good kid, and as much as the “name his kid after Snape etc etc” doesn’t make sense for multiple reasons, if it weren’t for the fact I couldn’t believe other people wouldn’t advise him against it, I can yeah, sort of see it, because he is way too forgiving and empathetic for his own good early on.
It was as early as the fifth book that after being pretty much mentally tortured by this guy, all he had to see were a few memories of him being bullied, and it was like instance empathy. “I’ve been bullied. I’ve been tortured. Now I see Snape has and I feel sorry for him.” Harry was so incredibly horrified at the idea his dad could have been a bully he was depressed for weeks, specifically because he knew what being abused felt like.
Snape had literally laughed at his terrible memories, but Harry was shocked when Snape thought he would find his funny.
Really, the big difference between Snape and Harry is Harry is able to engage in empathy and self reflection to an extent I don’t think he really gets credit for. He’s the opposite spectrum from Snape, who can never fucking forgive anything and punishes people who weren’t involved. Harry will instantly connect someone else’s pain to his own and feel it like that, no matter what that person did to him. He grew up suffering, and instead of letting that close him off from empathy, he instead uses it to connect to other people and look out for them. I think that’s pretty amazing. He always values people who suffered for him and died to protect him, even if they were horrible to him, he kind of can’t let go of that connection. It’s a kind of forgiveness that’s almost unhealthy, but it’s also born I think, from being a person who just…loves a lot because they know what it’s like to grow up without love.
So my actual headcanon for that is that people around Harry on some level understand that Harry just couldn’t let go of someone else’s suffering once he felt it as intimately as he felt Snape’s and wanted him to do what he could to make peace with that.
I always remember when I was younger and fandom would talk about how Harry overreacted to stuff (especially in the fifth book) and I just always saw it as the same as me, really. When you grow up sometimes in a bad situation, you can go certain ways- completely shut yourself off, or become very sensitive and open to your own suffering and the suffering around you to the point where you’re just boiling over all the time. You can’t ask for help, but you want to help everyone instead. Harry was always a character I related too because I understood that, I understood wanting to connect with everyone and not being able to stand when something reminds you of that suffering. Harry really is a good character. You can say all you want about the writing in Harry Potter, but god, he really meant a lot to me, and still does strike me as a very accurate representation of how someone who grew up in that situation can act.